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"Forget what you heard, recognize what you see. I know you heard the rumors...now here's the real me." XoXo

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Men Have Clocks Too


A few weeks ago I was contacted by an old acquaintance from high school who use to have a crush on me. As we exchanged pleasantries over email he asked me if I was married and how many kids did I have. When I responded and told him I wasn't married yet so therefore I do not have any kids yet he said he was shocked. Fast forward to a few weeks later, in the midst of another conversation he approached the subject again and asked me what was I waiting for to have kids since we are not getting any younger? A question like that would have really pissed me off months ago; but, instead of getting angry with him for sounding like someone who can't wait to be a grandfather, I flipped it on him. I simply asked him what was his fascination with me having kids?. Imagine my surprise when he confessed that all his boys had kids and he was starting to feel a little bit left out. He mentioned that he was 33 and did not want to be an old dad and that he felt like it was time.

His confession was quite shocking to hear because society has always painted woman as the victims of the "my clock is ticking" mentality. Woman are typically the ones doomed with the thought they must have kids by a certain age or else. I'm not sure if it was refreshing to hear that men are plagued by some of the same fears woman are or if it was a turn off, but it was definitely interesting to hear.

Men are always portrayed as strong, confident go getter's who don't have to worry about things like kids and marriage because it just happens for them. The media never portrays men as individuals ready and waiting for children, wondering if it's going to be too late. I must admit its nice to know deep down beneath the facade of coolness and nonchalance, that sometimes men share the same concerns and worries as woman. I assured my friend that he will make a great dad when the time is right and to not worry about how young he is. During the course of my journey I realized that when it is right, it just happens....no worry necessary.

My Early Christmas Present


It looks like Christmas came early for me this year. Last Monday I accepted an offer for a new job in......North Carolina. That's right, I'm moving to North Carolina. For those of you who follow my blog you might remember a post I wrote in February about how I wanted to move. Well as I said in my last post "Becareful What You Write" it looks like my wish has come true. The doors this new position can open for me are endless and I am estactic.

This is a promotion that I did not expect but one I am truly thankful for. I can honestly say that I am excited and scared at the same time. It will be challenging moving to a new place and starting over however, this opportunity could not have come at a better time. It seems that as you get older or wiser you start to recognize the mistakes you made along the way. Sometimes you can fix these mistakes and other times you just can't. In this instance I get to take my lessons and start over and I cannot tell you how grateful I am for that. I am fired up and truly inspired by my new boss. A fresh start, a new beginning and a brand new job, what better way to start 2011.

In the upcoming weeks I will be packing and enjoying my last few weeks in MD. I just realized I will have to change my blog because this BK vixen is now going to NC!!

Thursday, November 4, 2010

Uggs and Choo's? I think Not!

Every woman wants a pair of Jimmy Choo's and most woman already have at least one pair of Uggs. But what happens when you take Jimmy Choo's and merge them with Uggs? You get this:


A devout fan of Jimmy Choo's and definetly a fan of Uggs, unfortunately, I have to give this uncanny collaboration a thumbs down. Aside from the clutter of decor around the boot itself, the Jimmy Choo concept is totally missing in this collaboration. These low end over priced boots start at a whooping $700.00 and I wouldn't believe Jimmy Choo had anything to do with them if it was listed as a special edition on the Ugg website itself.

The best of both worlds merged together in this case cleary resulted in a mess. This is one Ugg trend I will have to pass on. What are YOUR thoughts??